Life is unpredictable. No matter how well we plan, how diligently we work, or how faithfully we pray, there will be moments when things go wrong. Relationships fracture, careers stall, health fails, and dreams shatter.
In these moments, it’s easy to feel abandoned, overwhelmed, or even angry at God. But as your lifestyle coach, I want to remind you that trials are not the end of your story; they are the refining fire that shapes your faith, resilience, and destiny.
• Acknowledge the Pain, But Don’t Dwell in It
When life falls apart, the worst thing we can do is pretend we’re fine. Even Jesus wept (John 11:35). David cried out in the Psalms, “How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?” (Psalm 13:1, KJV). God does not expect us to suppress our emotions. He invites us to pour out our hearts before Him.
What to do:
- Be honest with God. Tell Him exactly how you feel.
- Write it down. Journaling helps process emotions.
- Talk to a trusted friend. “Two are better than one… for if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, KJV).
But after you grieve, you must rise. Wallowing in despair only prolongs the pain.
- Remember: God Is Still in Control.
When everything seems chaotic, we must anchor ourselves in this truth: God is sovereign. Joseph was betrayed, enslaved, and imprisoned; yet he later declared, “Ye thought evil against me, but God meant it unto good”
(Genesis 50:20, KJV).
What to do:
- Meditate on Scripture. “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God” (Romans 8:28, KJV).
- Recall past victories. If God brought you through before, He will do it again.
- Declare God’s promises. Speak His Word over your situation.
- Shift Your Focus from the Problem to the Solution
It’s natural to obsess over “why” something happened, but dwelling on the problem keeps you stuck. Instead, ask: “What now?”
Paul and Silas were beaten and thrown into prison, yet at midnight, they prayed and sang praises (Acts 16:25). Their worship shifted the atmosphere, leading to a miraculous breakthrough.
What to do:
- Pray with faith. “The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much” (James 5:16, KJV).
- Take action. If you lost a job, update your resume. If a relationship ended, seek healing.
- Serve others. Helping someone else shifts your focus from self-pity to purpose.
- Surround Yourself with Faith, Not Fear
Negative voices; whether from people, social media, or your own thoughts; will try to convince you that your situation is hopeless. But “faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God” (Romans 10:17, KJV).
What to do:
- Limit toxic influences. Avoid constant complainers.
- Listen to sermons, worship music, and testimonies. Fill your mind with faith.
- Speak life. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Proverbs 18:21, KJV).
- Trust God’s Timing
We want instant solutions, but God works in seasons. “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven”
(Ecclesiastes 3:1, KJV).
- Waiting is not wasting. David was anointed king but spent years in the wilderness before his coronation.
- Delays are not denials. Lazarus was dead for four days before Jesus raised him (John 11).
What to do:
- Be patient. “They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength” (Isaiah 40:31, KJV).
- Stay obedient. Keep doing what’s right, even when nothing changes.
- Watch for divine opportunities. God often moves when we least expect it. • Let the Trial Strengthen You, Not Break You
Trials reveal what’s inside us. Will we crumble or emerge stronger? “The trying of your faith worketh patience” (James 1:3, KJV).
What to do:
- Grow through the pain.Let this season teach you resilience.
- Forgive. Bitterness only hurts you. “Forgive, and ye shall be forgiven” (Luke 6:37, KJV).
- Keep moving forward. “Forgetting those things which are behind… I press toward the mark” (Philippians 3:13-14, KJV).
- Your Comeback Is Coming.
You may be in the middle of a storm, but remember “storms don’t last forever.” The same God who calmed the raging sea for the disciples is with you today.
“We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed”* (2 Corinthians 4:8-9, KJV).
Your setback is setting you up for a greater comeback. Hold on. Keep believing. Your breakthrough is closer than you think.
Action Steps Today:
- Pray honestly. Tell God exactly how you feel.
- Read Scripture daily. Start with Psalm 34:18, Romans 8:28, Jeremiah 29:11.
- Take one step forward. Even if it’s small, progress is progress.
You are not alone. You are loved. And this trial? It’s just a chapter, not the whole book. Your best days are still ahead.
Damilola Omosebi — Your Lifestyle Coach.
